5 Things to know before Getting Married - which nobody talks about

So you are thinking of getting married. Congratulations! if you have proposed or going to propose.
Best way to get married isn't to think about it too much. The more you think the less likely you would get married. However these are things which would happen and perhaps you need to prepare yourself to these things.

1. Marriage is boring:
Very opposite to initial dating, chasing, waiting for somebody to be yours and all those dating games. All Gone Poof!  All those options you had or could have.

  You know you are going to be with someone and they know you are going to be with someone. This comfort of knowing you both are for each other. After an initial wedding or so-called honeymoon phase. Marriage is a long time commitment.

You really are thinking to get married someone to spend REST OF YOUR LIFE. That can be 5 years - 50 years.


2. It would take long time for you to get used to being married : 
It would be difficult for you to realize that man or woman you are planning to spend time with IS ACTUALLY your "wife" or "husband".

If you have been player it would be difficult for you to know how to behave with opposite sex.

or had a long dating history firstly you would be happy that you have found somebody but you would still find that living with only one person difficult and also question what about all the people you have dated or were in a relationship with. Just because you are married it would be difficult to tell where those relationships are in your life.

3. There would be lots of temptation : 
If you are decent looking and even when you would be minding your business. There would be always people who will be giving you mixed signals, flirting and getting you confused. OR Somehow you would be doing the same. Not knowingly but just being friendly but being married actually sometimes make a person more desirable. People always want to have what they can't have.

It is said that young women who go for the married man who wears ring in their hands. Yes, there would be lots of temptation and depending on how loyal to your partners and LOYALTY as a subject would be debated in your head.

4. Your partner wouldn't be enough : 
As much initial, you would want you both to be enough but you or your partner aren't substitute for people who you would need in your life. Like your friends, coaches, mentors, colleagues, parents, etc. If you suddenly had new hobby and your partner isn't into it , you would need other people who has same interest as you. You would need people to talk about your own marriage with others just to take a break from your day to day life. Sometimes this can feel opposite of the whole point of choosing the ONE.


5. You would be lonely : 
Just because you are married that doesn't mean you wouldn't be lonely.Yes, you would have a company but it isn't guaranteed that you wouldn't feel lonely.  Sometimes even you are in the crowd you can be lonely and so if you are getting married because of fear of being lonely. STOP !
How do you deal with your personal loneliness would also determine your relationship with others not only your partner? If you are in constant state of loneliness than it is suggested you look for therapy to find root of loneliness or find friends who would help you go through tough time.